Navigating the Path | Discerning Elohim's Will in Relationships | Wisdom of the Hebrew Scriptures

The heart is complex and easily influenced, especially when it comes to relationships and attractions. As truth-seekers, we desire to walk in Elohim’s (GOD’s) will, but how can we discern if a potential connection aligns with His purposes? While family and friends may offer invaluable guidance, the Hebrew Scriptures also provides a rich amount of wisdom for navigating these waters.

1. The Foundation of Elohim's Law:

Our journey begins with the bedrock of Elohim's law. Deuteronomy 7:3-4 warns against intermarriage with foreign nations, not out of prejudice or racism, but to protect Israel from idolatry. "Neither shall you make marriages with them. Your daughter you shall not give to his son, nor his daughter shall you take to your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods." This principle reminds us that relationships should strengthen, not weaken, our devotion to Elohim (GOD).

• Application: Ask yourself, does this relationship draw me closer to Elohim (GOD), or does it tempt me to compromise my faith? Are the values and priorities of the other person consistent with YAH's commands?

2. Seeking Wise Counsel:

Proverbs 12:15 reminds us, "The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but he who heeds counsel is wise." Samson's disregard for his parents' counsel (Judges 14:1-3) led to disastrous consequences. The Hebrew Scriptures consistently emphasizes the importance of seeking wisdom from those who have walked with Elohim (GOD).

• Application: Seek counsel from righteous mentors, pastors, teachers, or elders in your community. They can offer valuable perspectives and help you discern Elohim's voice.

3. Examining Character:

Proverbs 19:22 states, "What is desired in a man is kindness, and a poor man is better than a liar." Character matters. The Hebrew Scriptures highlights the importance of integrity, honesty, and kindness. Look for these qualities in a potential partner.

• Application: Observe the person's actions and words. Do they demonstrate integrity and kindness? Are they consistent in their character?

4. The Importance of Peace:

Psalm 37:37 speaks of the peaceful end of the upright man. "Mark the blameless man, and observe the upright; for the future of that man is peace." While not a direct command on relationships, this principle shows that a life lived according to Elohim’s (GOD’s) will, results in peace.

• Application: Does this relationship bring a sense of peace and alignment with Elohim’s (GOD’S) presence? Or does it create anxiety, confusion, stress, or a sense of unease?

5. The Danger of Lust and Immediate Gratification:

Samson's desire for the Philistine woman was driven by immediate gratification (Judges 14:3). The Hebrew Scriptures repeatedly warns against the dangers of lust.

• Application: Are your motivations rooted in genuine love and respect, or in fleeting desires? Are you willing to wait on Elohim's (GOD’s) timing?

The Blueprint of Connection: Principles of Divine Discernment

Discerning whether a relationship or attraction aligns with Elohim's (GOD’s) will is a complex process that requires careful consideration and a reliance on several key principles. Here's a breakdown of how to approach this:

1. Biblical Principles:

• Alignment with Elohim's (GOD’s) Word:
• Does the relationship contradict any clear biblical commands? (e.g., Deuteronomy 7:3-4, "Neither shalt thou make marriages with them…”)
• Does it promote or hinder your spiritual growth?
• Are the values and character of the other person consistent with biblical principles?
• Fruit of the Spirit:
• Does the relationship produce the fruit of the Spirit (Micah 6:8): love, peace, integrity, mercy, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control?
• Does it lead to positive growth and maturity in your life?

2. Prayer and Discernment:

• Seeking Elohim's (GOD’s) Guidance:
• Regularly pray for discernment and wisdom regarding the relationship.
• Ask Elohim (GOD) to reveal any red flags or potential dangers.
• Listen for the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit.
• Seeking Counsel:
• Talk to trusted Hebrew mentors, pastors, or wise friends who can offer objective advice.
• Consider their perspectives and insights, especially those who know you well and understand your spiritual journey.
• Inner Peace:
• Does the relationship bring a sense of peace and alignment with Elohim's (GOD’s) presence?
• Or does it create chaos, stress, sadness, or a sense of unease?

3. Character and Values:

• Shared Faith:
• Is the other person a genuine truth-seeker of Elohim?
• Do you share a commitment to growing in your faith?
• Character Qualities:
• Does the person demonstrate integrity, honesty, and respect?
• Are their values and priorities aligned with your own?
• Mutual Respect:
• Is there mutual respect, kindness, and consideration in the relationship?
• Are you treated with dignity and value - as an equal?

4. Practical Considerations:

• Influence:
• Does this person bring you closer to Elohim, or farther away?
• Do they influence your life in a positive or negative way?
• Future Goals:
• Are your long-term goals and visions compatible?
• Do you share a similar outlook on life, family, and faith?

Important Considerations:

• Emotional vs. Spiritual: It's crucial to distinguish between emotional attraction and spiritual alignment. Strong feelings don't necessarily equate to Elohim's will. 
• Time and Observation: Discernment takes time. Don't rush into decisions. Observe the relationship over time and seek consistent confirmation. Ask Elohim for signs and be clear and direct!

By combining biblical principles, prayer, wise counsel, and careful observation, you can gain greater clarity and discernment in navigating relationships and attractions.

A Word of Caution:

Discerning Elohim's will is not a simple formula. It requires prayer, patience, and a willingness to surrender our desires to His. Remember, Elohim's ultimate desire is for us to draw closer to Him. By grounding our relationships in His Word and seeking His wisdom, we can navigate these complex waters with greater clarity and confidence.

Elohim still loves you, Israel. The call remains the same: Choose Life, Choose Blessing, Choose Undivided Devotion. Repent, Return, and be free from the shadows of gross darkness.

I hope this blog post has been helpful. If you have any questions, please feel free to leave a comment below. Shalom qodesh qadasheem - the “set apart ones.”